Why Indian women crib so much??

Well, I read approximately 5-10 jokes on married females everyday. I used to get offended earlier but now I enjoy them along with all male companions. I wonder why? Maybe because its the better way out. If I try and explain them, they make another joke about me or tell me to chill, learn to handle jokes. 

Ever wondered why there are so many jokes on us? Well, its simple, because most of these jokes are true. A little exaggerated maybe but true. 

Indian women are one of the most frustrated lot who have learnt to laugh at their own misery. And its their frustration which makes them react to all things harshly. Their husbands have understood their problem, made peace with their wives temper and then decided to make jokes later to relieve their pressure.  

But nobody tried to solve it. Women who leave their homes and travel to unknown surroundings with their new found partner into a new set of family has a lot of adjust to. But their fight does not end there. They also have the burden of pleasing this new family, her husband and fulfilling a set of new responsibilities which she may or may not have been used. If she fails at it, she is looked down upon by the society and threatened by her own parents. When she finds no support from all her backups including her family, she gives up and decides to do what all others have done in the past. Please the husband and his family. Work all day and night and still be bubbly and never tired. And yay, she manages to reach this goal. 

The only problem being, she forgets herself in her fight to reach the goal. Her happiness, her likings, her pleasures, she forgets them all. And she wins this time, the society is praising her and her family and parents are proud of her but she is empty inside. She is not sure why she did all that. What is she getting in return. Appreciation is good but does it fulfil the fact that she cant sleep at her own hours, she cant cook what only she likes, she cant go where she wants, and she cant even say whats actually in her mind. 

Now, realising that she has 2 options, either to give up with whole “pleasing the new family” job and be a failure and enjoy herself. Or the second option is to continue doing all of this and forget about her happiness. The ones who succumb to choosing this second option are the most frustrated ones. 

And this need to please becomes so much of a habit that if they don't do it for even a day, they start feeling guilty for it. 

A girl who could be the next CEO of a multinational is now happy that some people from her house and society find her necessary for their food, clothing etc and appreciate her once in a while. She is happy on the surface that she is being recognised by her new family. But is she happy inside? NO. She isn’t. Her soul is frustrated. Her entire life, she worked for a purpose, to achieve something, to do something, to become something. For what? To leave it all and fail in her life ; just to pass in someone’s else book? 

Obviously, Indian women are frustrated. And this frustration starts showing after few years when the appreciation stops as everyone thinks they are doing their work. And it comes out out loud in other forms like why you stepped on her recently mopped floor (when she is working all day to make it clean) or why are you sleeping so much (when she can’t) or why cant you appreciate my recipes anymore (because she is bored with cooking everyday all by herself) etc etc.

The rise of feminism is trying to help women realise that marriage is  for finding a partner not a 24x7 job. This rise is teaching us to ask men to equally participate in household chores so only one person is not frustrated. Feminism is not about fighting with men for equal rights. Its about making women feel equal without being guilty. It trying to give us what is already ours. 

So next time, when you find yourself cribbing too much, maybe you need a break. Take it and don’t be guilty about it. Don’t worry if someone else has to do your task even if they are tired. Believe me lady, you did more than your share of tasks for the past so many years, one-two days wont hurt anyone.